The Truth About Being a Girl Mom

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Cute Shoes and Outfits and Make-up, Oh My!

Omg. The outfits are seriously adorable. I’m not joking when I constantly ask little girls these days, “Does that come in my size?” Now that my own girls are getting older, I’m finding that all three of us are able to share shoes. This has it’s pros and cons. For instance, my Sorels and Hokas are a HARD no from me. There is, however, room for negotiation when it comes to Crocs and sandals. You wanna wear my Crocs to the pool? How about I get to wear your Ugg slippers for a couple hours and we will call it a deal?

Also, my girls get all kinds of giddy when my Fab-Fit-Fun box arrives 4 times per year. “MOM! You use Glow Recipe?! OMG, you so are SOOOO preppy!” To anyone 40 and over, preppy is now a good thing. And whenever I hear “Slay!” or “Yes, Mom!” that means something good too. It is now my goal in life to impress my tween. I’m in my ‘Preppy Era’! Sorry, was that too cringe?

Girls MIGHT Get…Expensive

I already know that I’m expensive, sooooo the same seems to go for my daughters. If we aren’t accidentally impulsively spending extra cash on unnecessary accessories, shoes, and clothes; then we are certainly spending it on extra curricular. My girls love dance, gymnastics, and music……but mostly dance. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely LOVE watching them do what they love, but it definitely adds up to what feels like a second mortgage payment some months. So we started this blog and an Etsy shop as a way to bring in extra funds so that they can continue growing their craft and doing what they love. We’ve also cut back on the shopping (for now).

The Emotional Rollercoasters

You won’t typically find girls wresting their friends or siblings on the floor, breaking a lamp as they parkour across the living room couch, or burp and fart on command. However, they WILL carry with them a vast array of emotions that will change faster than you can say, “Please pass the Midol.” And as your little princess approaches the tween years, those emotions multiply. One minute, she is crying and screaming about losing her favorite book mark, the next minute she is leaping across the living room and giggling with her siblings. The funny, yet reassuring, thing is that your tween is more than likely just as shocked by the drastic change of emotions as you are. This will present a wonderful learning and bonding opportunity for you and your daughter, as she is learning healthy ways to cope with her emotions while also feeling validated in the perplexities of growing up. So give her grace (and maybe some chocolate) as you help coach her through some difficult, big feelings during a very confusing time in her life. When she shouts back a sassy comment, do your best not to flip your lid. Keeping your composure will model what good emotional regulation looks like. It might feel like you’re letting her get away with disrespect, but you’re not. She knows what she said was hurtful and she’s relying heavily on your unconditional love during these emotional moments. Once she cools off, make sure you listen to her concern and make her feel valid in her emotions. Then, go in for the discussion about how she could handle the situation respectfully the next time (and trust me, there will be a next time), and ways that she can calm her body before responding with a hurtful comment or action (counting from ten, taking deep breaths, etc). Remember-this is hard for her too. She is learning about it for the first time, and it is your job to be her guide.

Sisterly Love

I don’t know what I would do without my sister. Period. She is my best friend and one of the first people I turn to when life gets tough. Family is everything, and a sisterly bond is something that a lot of women won’t ever get the opportunity to experience. So while you or your spouse might be wondering what life would have been like to have a boy, don’t forget the greatest gift you have ever given your girls….each other. They will still have each other long after you and your spouse are gone. Nourish that relationship and really emphasize just how lucky they are to have each other. 

The same goes for brothers! I’ll admit, I did beg my parents to take my little brother back to the hospital after he was born. I also thought he smelled like cheese, and I was jealous that he was the new baby of the family. However, my brother and I have a special bond that was built on many ups and downs in sibling rivalry through our childhood. I’m glad that we finally got overall of that, for the most part, and decided to become buddies that share inside jokes and heart-to-heart conversations. I just hope he remembers that I’m still the favorite child.

Mother-Daughter Bond

Finally, the mother-daughter bond has so many unique qualities, some of which can’t really be expressed through words. You will be her comfort in all things female related. You will be there when she picks out her wedding dress, before she walks down the aisle, and when she has babies of her own. You will be her safety net when she goes through her first break-up, and her savior when she unexpectedly gets her period right before a dance competition. You are the wise person who has already walked in her shoes, and can provide the best advice to fit her needs. The person who knows that little girl better than anyone else. Cherish that bond, through the good times and the challenging ones. When she starts to doubt herself or lose her way, remind her who she is and how far she has come. All of those experiences only make the bond that much stronger. One day, you’ll find that you need her just was much as she needs you.